The Balance Between Consistency and Change
In Montessori practice, we talk frequently about consistency so much so that sometimes we can fear change. Consistency is a cornerstone of preparing environments for toddlers. Everything in the world is so big and new for toddlers that consistency helps them prepare and know what to expect. Toddlers are looking for patterns to adapt to their culture and their community. When they think something will happen tomorrow and it does it slowly builds more and more confidence. Therefore consistency builds confidence.
Still, change is a natural part of life; seasons change, a child’s interest will change and night changes into day. Change is good it keeps things fresh and new. When change is balanced with consistency it helps children develop an ability to be flexible and problem solve. It’s when there is constant change without any consistency it becomes chaos. Chaos makes it difficult for a toddler to build confidence and they stay more dependent because they are more reliant on the adult to figure out what is happening.
There are two general ways to balance change and consistency. One way is to make small amounts of change while keeping most things consistent. Another way is to have a clear obvious change followed by a period of consistency. There are lots of different paces of change between these two types. By understanding the two opposite ends of the balance of consistency and change you can adapt Montessori practice to your unique situation.
Preparing for Small Changes
First is a slow change over a long period of time. Here so many things are consistent that children still feel confident in what to expect day to day. The few changes that happen are so small that they generate interest and fascination. An example is watching a garden grow. The garden needs to be watered, cleaning, loved and each new bud is a little miracle. Another example is giving new lessons in a classroom as a child grows.
These changes are easy to manage and sometimes happen without us even knowing. Yet, it is important to acknowledge these changes and so we see how we grow. It is also important to highlight these changes as it makes the world a more wonderful and mysterious place. For example on the first snowfall of the day spend some extra time outside to admire the change in seasons. Don’t get so lost in the importance of consistency that toddlers don’t learn to appreciate the nature of the world.
Preparing for Big Changes
The second type of change is more challenging. This is a big change where once the change has happened things will be different. This can be a simple daily change like going to sleep or waking up. Being awake is very different than being asleep. For a toddler, this is a big change and the more consistent their bedtime routine and sleeping environment is the better they will transition from being awake to being sleep. This type of change can also be a huge change like moving into a new house or starting preschool. Have lots of patients as a toddler will have to learn to trust themselves again as they learn what is new. The more consistency there is before and after the change the quicker a toddler will adjust. Here are a few guiding principles to implement before and after a big change to help things go as smoothly as possible.
Before the Change
During the Change
After the Change
The Role of the Absorbent Mind Related to Change
Maria Montessori named the brain of children under 6 years old the Absorbent Mind. This Absorbent Mind gives children the ability to learn without effort. This means they are learning without any conscious effort and sometimes they are even not aware of what they are learning. The experiences from when a child has their Absorbent Mind construct their personality. By giving your toddler positive experiences with change their Absorbent Mind will use these experiences to build a proactive attitude towards change into their personality. This attitude will be with your toddler for the rest of their life.
Be mindful that children are also absorbing your attitudes about change and things going on in life. If you are scared or stressed about changes going on in your lives your toddler will pick up on this and feel the same way. Toddlers trust your feeling more than their own because they are so dependent and don’t have the life experience yet. So in preparing for your toddler for change don’t forget to prepare yourself. This way your toddler will learn from you and from their experience that change is good and they will have the confidence to face many things in their life.
Written by Emily Suarez